I don’t post often on my personal timeline about my health. I post a little, but 90% of it goes here. I don’t hide this blog or its facebook page or my instagram, but I don’t advertise them either. I started blogging very much anonymously due to the horrific way my friends were treating me. But over time it changes to being a place to educate, and advocate and tell my story. I grew to own it, and acknowledge it. And very much appreciate my friends I’ve made here, and my friends in the real world who follow to keep up with how I’m doing.
One friend told me not to post my health problems on facebook because it is ‘her happy place’ and I ‘bring her down’ and I ‘pollute her timeline with negativity’. Bwahahahaha…My apologies, babe. Wait..did you just call me pollution??? LOL
I have been posting for the last two days about my troubles, for a very simple reason. My ex was not coming to the party, and was not helping enough, in my opinion, with the kids. We still have about 60 mutual facebook friends, all of whom he would like to have think that he’s a really good guy. If they know I’m going through a pretty bad rough patch, and see him posting about how much fun he’s having, and clearly NOT being with his kids when their mother is in hospital, well, that doesn’t look good for him.
Plus his boss, the personal trainer he fell in love with (they aren’t together) is my facebook friend. She is now also a mother. She has more influence over him than anyone. She has given him all the time he needs off to care for his kids and is very understanding, which makes life easier for everyone.
Manipulative? Yes maybe. Bitchy? No, I don’t think so.
In the last two days I’ve lost 4 facebook friends, I always lose a few when I post about my health. Guess I was bringing them down too 🙂. I don’t even know who, you know how you collect friends but some of them you really don’t know? I’m not bothered in the slightest, but it does say a lot about the lack of empathy in the world in general. And far too many people truly believe you can fix anything with a healthy diet and exercise. For example, I posted the same post about the coca cola on my personal timeline, and a friend actually posted back in all caps that ‘COKE WILL ROT YOUR GUTS’ and instantly defriended me. He actually believes that if I stopped drinking coke, I would have no health problems. OMG…seriously.
No loss to me, but I wonder at the collective ignorance, the responsibility of the ‘wellness’ industry for making people arrogant, uneducated dipshits who believe there is no such thing as disease, that its just ‘DIS-ease’ with your body, and a psychological condition that you can fix with diet, exercise, yoga, thinking positive. These things can help a great deal but they aren’t cures. Oh and if you quit sugar or go Paleo all illness can be cured.
Victim blaming. Victim blaming everywhere!!!
Still, my ex husband is looking after our kids next week while I have my hysterectomy. And he is being supportive and kind now. I believe he just panics when these things happen, and initially he reacts all wrong. He comes through in the end. But yes, I did manipulate the situation, and yes, I lost some…people. Not friends. Not people that matter 🙂#hurtingbuthappy #RA #Itsnotmyfaultihavetoeatpaleo #allergies #EoE#Ididntquitsugar #LOL